If you do not need a man because you love him but love him because he is needed, the so-called love with its own value or market value compensation would be aptly described. -Once again, in the subjunctive, because the funds are former prima facie case, where indeed the latter case is infinite and therefore impossible for patients to differentiate the two situations is enormous, despite their difference in value.
The sense of a partnership relationship is shifting in those circumstances on the desired unconditional affirmation of the other person to secure, will not leave without agreement. The construct of love joins seamlessly with this reduction to the institutions, to satisfy the human need for security. can
Some simple and, I think pauschalisierbaren examples show that these thoughts are justifiable and not (only-one must note, finally, the Freudian negation), spring from the defiance
spent years together fulfill a proud, as whether it was a benefit, instead of security that comes from a natural relationship.
surprises are expected, at least from time to time. That an expected surprise, falls in himself, is the logical consequence. Their emotional effect is at best of a fulfilled expectation, which are often unnoticed is otherwise expected surprises can only fail.
The desire to be seen by partners as a center of his life come on, what has also controversial, as soon as you realize that this desire is mutual.
especially women tend to want to see each read request from the eyes. This tendency demands on the partners that often exceed even their own skills, as the man (woman) has rarely clear about their wishes.
short, where I was, to be ER, in the aggressive case even reversed. (Mutatis mutandis apply to both sexes.)
I expel me on this Construct largely because it is so narrow and conditions subject in practically not compatible with our idea of romantic love.
One can consider the Freudian extremes, the analysis says that man is bound by libidinal ties to the opposite sex parent to two specific types of partners. But not even have to take Freud's theory to be true, so such a restriction occurs because the legislative barriers that we impose on the choice of partners and the relationship itself out, at about the same effect.
everyone knows man for himself, like to be the partner and the relationship that have so he is happy. (This is finally the ultimate goal.) It has an accurate picture of how it should be, has clear idea about who is the right partner, it provides many expectations of person and situation in which one not even notice that there are some.
But since when the human knows exactly what makes him happy?
Hence my doubts about the honesty of the institution at the same time about their relationship and meaning.
How (what) Love (should be) arise when we are not open to the true nature of others, but his thinking, his actions and his feelings while squeezed into our template of ideas, desires and expectations, up from Origin nothing is left.
The most serious is that we adhere to it and are emotionally laden with jealousy or fear, if we mentally cross the boundaries of expectations and react with disappointment, anger or aggression, when in fact destroy our illusions.
I of course want the nutritional side, that of absolute happiness, which is also part of a relationship, not disregard. But even this site gets a sticky-bitter aftertaste, given that they are nourished from moments where you think you stand at the center of another life.
Maybe it's better in the future than non-affected Beziehungskrisengespärche to leave, so that such views can be avoided.
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